5 Misconceptions Of An Introvert

5 Misconceptions Of An Introvert

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People judge what they don't understand. 

You know, we're not actually all that shy and quiet-- we're just careful who we reveal our craziness to. Nine times out of ten, I am always called out for being too much like an introvert... well, its because I am and I'm proud of it! So here are 5 misconceptions of an introvert most people may assume they know when thinking of someone who is an introvert.

1. We're Quiet and Boring

Furthest from the truth.

Just because we are quiet and feel awkward at times, please believe, if you rub me the wrong way, YOU WILL HEAR ABOUT IT. Yes, I yelled that last sentence because you will definitely hear us if you make us feel a certain way (well, at least for myself). I don't put up with people trying to purposely embarrass me or others and if you are an introvert, you shouldn't either. Like I stated earlier, we carefully reveal ourselves to those we are comfortable around and when we are comfortable, we will talk and talk for hours!

What's boring to you may just make us happy. You think staying home on a Friday night is boring, well, we think it's Heaven! You love kicking it at the clubs, we like going to a bookstore. There's nothing wrong with what we love. And that brings me to my next issue...

2. We Need To Strive To Be Less Introverted  

Look, we don't have some type of contagious disease that we need to cure. I don't need to change my ways to equal up to what you deem a "normal" person is in life. We don't need to change anything about ourselves. Stop telling us that we need to be more outgoing, more like an extroverted person. There is nothing wrong with being an extrovert, but if that's not how we are, don't try to make us become something we are not. You don't like the way I am, then you really don't have to be around me. Simple as that. 

3. We're Angry and/or Depressed.

Jeez. Yes, we do like to be in our own world sometimes, but it doesn't mean we're depressed or angry. This is one of the most irritating misconceptions because I dislike for someone to always assume and tell me that there is something wrong with me, therefore, I'm depressed and angry. 

Trust me. We're good.

We just want to have time to ourselves. It is one of our favorite things to do, but don't put us in a box saying that we're just depressed or angry and that's why we want to be away from everyone.  Maybe we just want to be away from YOU

4. Introverts Are Followers; Not Leaders

Well, here's a list of famous introverts that don't seem to be "followers" in my book (via google):

Rosa Parks

Micheal Jordan

Abraham Lincoln

President Barack Obama - (He's still my president)

Beyonce

I got to be honest, I was shocked by this one, but she mentioned in an interview years ago:

“I wouldn’t like Sasha Fierce if I met her offstage. I’m not like her in real life at all—I’m not flirtatious and super-confident and fearless like her. What I feel onstage I don’t feel anywhere else. It’s an out-of-body experience. I created my stage persona to protect myself so that when I go home I don’t have to think about what it is I do. Sasha isn’t me. The people around me know who I really am.”
— Parade Magazine

 WOW! Mind. Blown.

5. Introverts Don't Know How To Relax And Have Fun .

No, we're not competing to be the life of the party, because we really don't want to be. While we may be quiet in a loud, crowded social function, it doesn't mean we're not having fun, but for the love of JESUS, don't tell us to LOOSEN UP! If you see us minding our own business, looking around and listening, guess what? You should let us continue to do so! There will not be any thrill seeking moment that will happen when you tell us to "loosen up and have fun". 

It ain't happening. 

So if you happen to know someone who is an introvert and their demeanor is quiet or just the opposite of who you are, don't assume they're just depressed or socially awkward.

You judge what you don't understand... so stop judging and start understanding. You never know, you may find a really great friend once you get to know a person who happens to be an introvert. Give it a shot, we're AWESOME! 

Are you an introvert or an extrovert? What are misconceptions people may have of you? Let me know in the comments! 

Until next time!

Toya

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